Satisfyomg Small Talk

Just as it is little things that build strong relationships, it is small talk that develops the rapport which leads to information, opening opportunities and strong connection.

Small talk happens both when people know each other and when unacquainted.

Want success in small talk? Begin with an opening statement about something that you and the other person have in common. Could be the weather, the setting, the host or leader of the group, food, driving or parking conditions, local happenings. Keep it short.

Then ask a question related to the topic –such as, “how do you know Terry Jones? ”

After the answer, add a statement which reveals something about yourself. Then add another question if the other person does not automatically add to the conversation.

Changing topics is easy. Use a transition as simple as “That reminds me,” and present another statement, followed by a question. Stumped for a question– “What do you think?” never fails.

Gracious leavetaing? Mention a reason, then repeat something you remember from the conversation about the other person and end with “good talking with you” or “see you later.”

If unaquainted with the person, interject early your name and your profession– “By the way, I’m Lee and I work at the local Kroger supermarket.” That way the other person knows a great deal about you right away. All people work; some do not get payment– mother of one, crafter, help raise my grandkid, gardener.

Be on the lookout– discover interests, experiences, values, goals, dreams, insights to motivations.

Lastly, satisfying small talk is like tennis or table tennis, back and forth and not monologue. Both persons revealing somthing about themselves brings satisfaction .