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To Communicate Empathy in Speaking–Including Public Speaking– Do This

BLOG #186 for   Thursday. Oct 15, 2020 English Speaking Skills To Communicate Empathy in Public Speaking—Do This

Richard D. Lewis in his renown or famous book  When Cultures Collide  stated “Empathy is based on accepting differences and building on these in a positive manner. The Japanese may come to accept that American directness is, after all, honest.  The American may perceive that exaggerated Japanese courtesy is, after all, better than hostility.  If the Italian wants to talk 90 percent of the time with a Finn, who is content to be silent (in Finland, silence is fun), then are they not both happy and doing what they do best?”

The most important word in communication is “You”.

Use these in public speaking:

“You’ll get good value if you ________.”

“You understand the price we’ll pay if _________.”

“You can depend on this product to ____________.”

“You can rely on my department for ___________.”

“You are certainly welcome to ________________.”

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Rule #1 for Public Speaking

BLOG #185 FOR WED.  Sept 30, 2020 Englspkg Skills  Rule #1 for Public Speaking alj09302020

Rule #1 for the content of your public speaking= Please don’t focus so much on yourself.  As my hairdresser would complain about a person who drove her crazy— Eleanor said,“I just wanted to blurt out, ‘It is not all about you.’”

 So, in your public speaking, find ways to address others’ needs.

  • “You can benefit if you __________________________.”
  • “You’ll gain direct access to ______________________.”
  • “You can win by _______________________________.”
  • “You deserve _________________________________.”
  • “You can count on _____________________________.”
  • “You can take advantage of ______________________.”
  • “You can now do something about ________________.”

Do you remember this from last week’s blog?  Fifty five percent of a person’s impression of you does not come from the words.  It comes from tone of voice and body language.

So please remember to smile.  This is how other people know you are friendly, accepting, supporting.

Did you know that even with a face mask  which protects other people from infection from you – other people can see the smile around your eyes.  Not only that. People can hear a smile—on the phone and, yes,  even through a face mask.

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Connect to People During Conversations

Title: Connect to People During Conversations

Blog Website Wed. September 23, 2020 by Dr. Antonia Lawrence Johnson

Connecting to the other person in conversation is good.  Especially good in these times of “safer at home.”  Here is an easy and informal way to connect to the other person in a conversation.  Just use these phrases–

  • “You probably know from your own experience that _________.”
  • “You know this situation or problem all too well:_______________.”
  • “You probably know what happened when ___________________.”
  • “You’ve certainly seen for yourself that:__________.”
  •  “Whew. You might be relieved to learn ______________________.”

Emphasize the word “you.” 

You know this—55% of another person’s impression of you comes from your tone of voice and your body language.   Soooo, to  connect with another person in conversation, say these sentences with feeling.  And feel the emotion of the moment and little story or experience you are sharing.  That emotion will show up and be visible on your face.   Keep it simple.  Keep the emphasis on “you”.

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Great Communiction -2- To Be the Vest Version of Yourself

Blog #183 for Thursday, Sept. 17, 2020 by Dr. Antonia Lawrence Johnson

Great Communication- 2-  To Be the Best Version of Yourself

When you are communicating under any situation, the frame or point of view of yourself as being in an audition will focus you to make yourself to be the best version of yourself.  Strange but true, it is fun to be the best version of yourself!

 Practice these tips for communication whether in-person or remote or virtual meeting.  These are tips from experts about interviews.   You could even practice these tips on your own.  Like a rehearsal.    Actors and actress practice.  So do people who are going to do an interview for a job.  You can too.

When you are interviewing for a job, the frame of being in audition will focus you to make yourself stand out from other job applicants.   Practice these tips during your rehearsal for the interview:

  • State or show the not-obvious.  Create an intriguing statement about yourself.  For example, a woman expecting to be told “Tell us a bit about yourself, “( the most popular interview question and the most popular question when first meeting someone), replied. “ I think I should tell you I’m a non-conforming conformist.”    Ack, just so you know, this example comes from an interview. And this woman explained what she meant and wound up getting the job.
  • Think About and Show Outside- the -Usual: Think about something visual that really represents you or something that you  can do.  Perhaps a photo taken at an event you organized. Or a photo of you engaged in a hobby – maybe hiking, jewelry making, football/soccer, drawing. Use your smart phone photo!   If you have nothing that symbolizes your capabilities, look for a pattern not easily apparent just by looking at you (or in the case of a job interview, in your resume).  Be prepared to talk about that interest or talent, apart from your  everyday life or  work history.
  • A quick and easy way to get some ideas about communicating about yourself to others is this: Get to media, including YouTube interviews: Watch interviews and make note of what works for persons to communicate about themselves.  Look for traits that make people likeable and competent.  Research indicates that people who use gestures are perceived as being more social. Research also indicates that people who speak clearly are perceived as being 30% smarter.
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